How We Can Help

We are here to support individuals and organisations understand how certain learnt behaviours can impact on personal wellbeing. Through our supportive team we provide consultation, advice and training which work with you to understand these behaviours and provide the tools to help you make that change.
We never give up on any individual or family, no matter what, because we know what change feels like – GREAT!

 

 

Rosalie Ryrie Foundation

Support for Families and Individuals

SELF HELP TIPS

Start by considering these 10 anger management tips.
  • Think before you speak. ...
  • Once you're calm, express your anger. ...
  • Get some exercise. ...
  • Take a timeout. ...
  • Identify possible solutions. ...
  • Stick with 'I' statements. ...
  • Don't hold a grudge. ...
  • Use humor to release tension.

We understand that during lockdown and the Covid-19 threat it is more difficult to take exercise and time out but take yourself (or dog if you have one) for a walk around the block.

Concentrate on your breathing, breathe in and out in time with your steps.

Pay attention to the way anger feels in your body

  • Knots in your stomach
  • Clenching your hands or jaw
  • Feeling clammy or flushed
  • Breathing faster
  • Headaches
  • Pacing or needing to walk around
  • “Seeing red”
  • Having trouble concentrating
  • Pounding heart
  • Tensing your shoulders

Negative thought patterns that can trigger anger

You may think that external factors—the insensitive actions of other people, for example, or frustrating situations—are causing your anger. But anger problems have less to do with what happens to you than how you interpret and think about what happened. Common negative thinking patterns that trigger and fuel anger include:

  • Overgeneralizing. For example, “You ALWAYS interrupt me. You NEVER consider my needs. EVERYONE disrespects me. I NEVER get the credit I deserve.”
  • Obsessing over “shoulds” and “musts.” Having a rigid view of the way a situation should or must go and getting angry when reality doesn’t line up with this vision.
  • Mind reading and jumping to conclusions. Assuming you “know” what someone else is thinking or feeling—that they intentionally upset you, ignored your wishes, or disrespected you.
  • Collecting straws. Looking for things to get upset about, usually while overlooking or blowing past anything positive. Letting these small irritations build and build until you reach the “final straw” and explode, often over something relatively minor.
  • Blaming. When anything bad happens or something goes wrong, it’s always someone else’s fault. You tell yourself, “life’s not fair,” or blame others for your problems rather than taking responsibility for your own life.

Give yourself a reality check

When you start getting upset about something, take a moment to think about the situation. Ask yourself:

  • How important is it in the grand scheme of things?
  • Is it really worth getting angry about it?
  • Is it worth ruining the rest of my day?
  • Is my response appropriate to the situation?
  • Is there anything I can do about it?
  • Is taking action worth my time?


“The best fighter is never angry.”
― Lao Tzu

“Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret.”
― Ambrose Bierce

“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.”
― Buddha

“The greatest remedy for anger is delay.”
― Thomas Paine

“If you show up late [for anger management], you don't get credit for the class, which made that car ride even more of a test of your temper. Being late was great-you could leave if you wanted to, but that wasn't going to help you at all. I was late a few times and I always stayed, hoping to get credit for good behavior. I never did, and that made me really fucking angry. Thank God I was learning how to deal with that.”
― Tommy Lee

The Foundation offers behaviour management and training that specifically looks at aggressive, abusive and conforming behaviours such as:

  • Physical, verbal, emotional and other forms of abuse
  • Available to perpertrators, victims and all members family
  • Domestic abuse including coersive control
  • Learnt behaviours
  • Aggressive behaviours
  • Conforming behaviours
  • Parenting issues
  • Support working with other organisations Court, Social Services
  • Bespoke Training available to other organisations

 

We believe everyone has the right to feel safe, valued, cared for and supported. You really do matter.

We cover group and individual sessions for families, couples, men and women. Every member of the family is included, from parents to grandparents and foster carers and children. Our aim is to provide a holistic service that takes on board the feelings and behaviours of all concerned.

Our sessions are broken down into the categories below. However if you cannot see one for you or don’t feel the options are appropriate please get in touch here and we’ll come back to you with our recommendations:

  • Stepping Out - Women Alternate Thursday 1-3pm:
  • Stepping Out Male - Once per month - Thursday - 1-3pm

For males and females, this session runs fortnightly and tackles anxiety and depression caused through destructive relationships. It also tackles the impact those destructive relationships have on current and future relationships.

  • ADAPT - Men Only Tuesday 6-8pm and
  • Footsteps4dads - Men Only Tuesday 10-12pm:
  • Footsteps4dads2 - Men Only Wednesday 6-8pm

Specifically for men, the ADAPT/Footsteps4dads sessions look at aggressive and conforming behaviours. It provides the tools and skills needed to become aware of aggressive behaviour patterns to effect change of mind-sets and beliefs.

  • Footsteps4mums - Wednesday 9.30am-11.30am:
  • Footsteps4mums2 - Thursday 9.30am-11.30am:

Specifically designed to look at the impact abusive behaviours have on children. Ideally for families who are working with social services or facing child protection issues; it looks at working and supporting parents identify and promote healthy relationships safeguarding children.

 

Support for Organisations

Wellbeing at work is recognised as a key driver is promoting employee productivity and engagement. Learnt behaviours can manifest at work just as they can at home which is why we support organisations by developing policies and training that positively impact on work wellbeing.

Through our expertise and knowledge we also work with many referral agencies. From GP’s, mental health agencies, councils, youth offending teams, education establishments and law enforcement by training, consultation and referral.

Through our expertise and knowledge working with learnt behaviours we can provide consultation and insight. Whether it’s a telephone call or a one to one meeting we can provide a specific solution to a specific problem.